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There's a lot of people at my office all getting married this year.
Two coworkers were talking and were trying to break down the chronological order-- "I think it's you first, then me, then Justin, and then Colin."
Then one of them asked "I wonder who after that?"
They both looked at me with a "Hey, you thinking about proposing?" sort of look and nudging...
I didn't even know how to respond--Their timing was terrible, as I had just been given the news a few days earlier that my girlfriend was moving away. So, no. I'm not fucking getting engaged. :P
The previous post under this thoughtword reminded me of how weird I feel about all the people in my life getting engaged.
Every time I find about about another one... It almost pisses me off.
I should be happy, but inside I'm a bitter jealous old crotchety man.
I have never even been on a date and people my age, or worse, some of them younger than me, are already deciding that they're done with the whole dating scene and moving on.
Some people are late-bloomers. Also, I think this generation is taking the whole marriage & children thing as if it's a second puberty. They won't be adults unless they've got a child or two by the age of 20 & are on their way down the aisle.
Price check on prune juice bob, but that doesn't make you a fuckin' adult. Maturity makes you an adult. Marriage in no way equals maturity. In most cases, it equals idiocy....
A girl I had a crush for a while is getting married. It's not that it bothers me, or makes me jealous or even gives me a "what if?" type of feeling, because it honestly doesn't. It just freaks me out that she's getting married, is all. I mean I certainly am not calling her out, she's a big girl now, she can make her own decisions. I guess it just creeps me out that real people, who I am attracted to, are getting married. I guess them growing up means I'm growing up? Or something like that? The thought of all of us getting old frankly terrifies me. I am nineteen, but I associate heavily with people in their early-mid twenties. Sure I have my "younger" friends too, but they are mostly high school seniors. So they'll be in college in a few months. Everyone's growing up. Everyone's changing. I've built a world around myself over the past couple years. It's about to crash all over my neophobic ass.
It'll keep happening, more and more, and it never gets less weird, in fact, getting ever weirder.
Getting to be nearly 20-some friends now of mine that are engaged or already married. A disturbing amount of them were all people who lived on my floor of my first dorm building freshman year: nearly 1/3rd of all those people got engaged to each other. It's madness!
Yesterday I found out one of my old friends was engaged, and I must admit that it makes me sad. I really don't think his girl is good for him. She's the reason that he and I don't talk anymore, because she got jealous even though we were never actually around each other. She made him stop doing things that he loved, things that I liked about him. And they fight all the time.
I don't want to wish them bad, but I can't see this going very well.
I hope for their sake it does though. He deserves to be happy, and he loves her so much.
I know how you feel, kinda. we were 'the original couple' in my friend group at uni, and now they're all getting engaged and married and I... am not.