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I've never understood this mentality. "It's what people before us did, and if was good enough for them, it's good enough for us."
Holy crap. No new medication for you then. I'm not ragging on all tradition, just silly ones that are clung to out of stubborness.
For example. "Marriage is between one man and one woman, because it's good and natural and God and Jesus and the Bible."
Faith is one thing. Do whatever your faith dictates, fine. But don't try to make everyone do what your faith dictate.
I once spent a good amount of time explaining something I read in a Heinlein book to a friend. Line marriage. Alternating sexes marry in, but exceptions made. I haven't tried it personally, but it seems like a good idea. Children basically cannot be orphaned, it seems that a lot of problems that cause divorce due to lonliness would be taken care of. Seems like it would just be incredibly stable. Their response? "It's unnatural. That's not the way things are done." Well fuck. At one point women having any rights at all wasn't the way things were done. "That's totally different." No, I'm not comparing women being treated as property to the current social view on relationships, but there was a point in there, damnit.
Now I'm agitated, I'm sure I'll be back though.
agreed. the way it "was done" was living in caves and hunting/gathering. why don't we just go way back to how it was, is that traditional enough? at what point do traditionalists draw the line?
It’s like polygamy, now personally I doubt this would ever work for me I’m very possessive. But for those who can make it work. I mean go for it. Now again there are extremes to everything and as long as you can support your family everyone is happy and you’re not hurting anyone I don’t see the big deal that seems to surround this concept. Think about it. A polygamist family has multiply parents. No child will go ignored no one will feel lonely. That may be my ignorant view of it but if it works for you than do it! Same sex marriage included. Hell most of these couples have been together longer than many married and then divorced couples! Religion and tradition seem to go hand and hand. Both are boxes people put themselves in to feel protected. They are blinders and shields especially when you’re afraid of something.
Yeah, it's okay for the people next door to get married, and then divorced, and then married again, before they're twenty, but god forbid same sex couples be aloud to have a ceremony or be given spousal rights...
Actually, polygyny (but not polyandry) is a more common form of marriage than monogamy worldwide, and throughout history. From what I've read, it's really only within Judeochristian groups that the tradition of only having one partner at a time is enforced. This is reflected in how guys are generally taller and stronger than women. Since, throughout the history of our species, human males have taken multiple wives and monopolized the gene pool, the selection pressure on them has been greater, resulting in their weak and unhealthy phenotypes getting more effectively weeded out. You see similar patterns in other animals too. I can't argue the ethics of polyamory, but I say that if everyone loves each other, then it's fantastic as far as I'm concerned.
That's a good way to put it, actually.