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They make up almost the entirety of my social circle. I love the people who spend hours playing Halo 3. I love the people who spend a good 3 or 4 nights a week doing nothing but roleplaying games. I love the people who hold 3-hour discussions about who would win between the universe of Babylon 5 and Warhammer 40k, or what they would do if our campus was attacked by zombies.
I'm not even THAT into nerdy things. I like roleplaying games, and I'll play computer games or video games if I'm exceedingly bored, or if that's what everyone else is doing. And I certainly don't derive much pleasure from spending hours on end talking about it. And I kind of hate most science fiction and fantasy with a flaming passion.
But I really love the nerd attitude. People don't become nerds because they love computers and av equipment. They become nerds because they don't fit in in other places. They all like to think it's because of how they look, but that's not true. If you're just a little on the unattractive side, you become a metal kid or a goth kid or some other more socially acceptable subculture. You become a nerd because you're either crazy or entirely socially inept. Or both. And in a way, that's healthier than a lot of normal people.
Socially inept people often aren't afraid of telling people exactly what they think. They're not afraid to mention dead babies, swap.avi, and fire ants IN THE SAME JOKE. They don't get caught up in the subtle shades of meaning of a look or a touch. They honestly don't care what the normal people think. It's refreshing to be around them.
There are times when it's frustrating. Like when my exboyfriend became unstable, threatened to kill himself, and spent a good minute pounding on the suite door screaming before we called university police. Or when lengthy conversations become about who the voices in your head tell you to kill instead of "Superman or Batman?"
So I picked a damned good group to live with, the kind who only tend to become crazy under specific circumstances, and are generally high-functioning and awesome. They have annoying moments, but they're people who I'd love to spend a pretty much open-ended amount of time with.
The other thing that comes with nerdiness is the fear of new people and places and social situations. And the inability to take verbal and nonverbal clues. Hence the tendency to find one group of friends, and NEVER EVER LEAVE THEM ALONE.
I miss the days where the sci-fi club office was the group hangout instead of my suite. Then I wouldn't have to put so much brainpower into finding a polite way to say "Please stop coming over here every single night from 9-2. If you weren't here, I would be having sex right now. And when I say 'damn, I'm so tired. I think I'm going to go get some sleep' that's your signal to go home. Please. God damn it."